Lesson 22 · Conversation moves · 6 min · Self-roast
Roast yourself, not your self-esteem
Self-deprecation that reads as confidence
The big ideaJoking about yourself is charming when it shows you're secure. It's a drag when it sounds like you're fishing for reassurance.
Watch the pro do it
Watch forBargatze imagines traveling back in time and being completely useless to the people there. The whole joke is on him, but he's relaxed and confident about it. That's the difference between a self-roast and a sad confession.
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More pros doing it
Bobby Lee has zero ego about being the punchline, and it makes everyone around him relax. Watch how he answers embarrassing questions by leaning in instead of getting defensive.